I feel bad for writing posts that are so irregular, even though I’ve never really had a timetable, but count yourselves lucky, because you’ve actually got two posts in a row from me this week! Aren’t I good?
Anyway, I saw a link on Facebook, with a quote saying:
Putting yourself first is not selfish!
I agree with this statement 100%. I know so many people who always put others first, which isn’t a bad thing at all, but they’ve gotten to the point where they don’t ever think about their own wants and needs. It’s okay to be selfish if what you’re doing is good for you. If you are always going out with a friend whenever they ask you, it is okay for you to say no sometimes, if what you really need is some time for yourself or to do other things.
Unfortunately, we can’t always make other people happy. But making yourself happy is a good place to start, and if people can’t understand that, then that’s not your fault, nor is it your problem. Everyone needs to think about themselves at some point or another, and don’t let anyone tell you that you’re being selfish for doing so.
By constantly putting other people before yourself, you’ll eventually find that you’ll get exhausted from trying, and I think that sometimes people will start to rely on you to always be there for them, so when you can’t be there, they may say something like “oh, but you’re always there for me, why have you changed now?” Everyone is busy, some people more so than others, but you have to make sure you let yourself have some time for you.
Someone I know has a friend who always asks them to come out with them, whether it’s to a party or just to go shopping, and my friend always agrees. However, when my friend asks her friend the same thing, her friend is usually “too busy” or just generally not interested. If you have these kinds of people in your life, who you find you are doing so much for and are getting nothing in return, then you shouldn’t feel bad if you actually can’t go out with them for a change. Don’t let these people drag you down.
And on that happy note, I’m going to have a shower.