The title says it all, really. Being at university means you have to be independent. You have to go out of your comfort zone, and you have to meet new people, and you have to ask questions, and you have to make your own decisions. Being at university for 5 days has made me more independent already, which I think is a good thing because it’s something you’re going to need in life anyway.
Going to university is really daunting, especially when it’s time for your family to say goodbye for the last time. As scary as it may seem, it’s not a bad thing to be left on your own. I remember being asked whether I was better at working in a team, or on my own, and I would always say I prefer working in a team. I think it’s still true, but there’s nothing wrong with being independent either. I remember thinking that being independent was like being a loner, and I didn’t want to be on my own and have to make all of the decisions.
The other thing I’ve learnt just from writing this post, is that I hate writing the word “independence”. It has too many e’s in it, and I always want to spell it as “independance“. Just to jazz it up a little bit.
University is a great time to build your self confidence. It won’t happen on the first day, or even by the end of the first week, but it will grow eventually. With all the people you meet and all the places you go and explore, it’s you becoming more confident and knowing that you can in fact be independent. Whether you’re going to a university in a city 20 minutes down the road, or 200 miles down the motorway, the whole experience will help you become an adult and not be so scared about the big wide world.
So many people have told me that “everyone is in the same boat”. Which is true, of course, but it can be hard to believe it sometimes when you’re that person who is quite shy, and doesn’t know the right thing to say. It’s okay to spend some time on your own in the first week of university, because you won’t have met everyone on your course yet, or in clubs and societies you want to join… that’ll all come with time.
I’m not really sure where I stopped talking about independence and more about making friends at university… anyway. The point is that independence is something that will come. Give it time. You probably won’t even notice it, because it’s a thing that comes the more often you go out and do different things. So don’t worry about it.